Gueler:
Yes, you are absolutely right. There was a thread in the flank openings forum on the problems associated with the 1.Nf3 f5 2.d3 move order with the idea of playing a delayed Lisitsin Gambit a while back. See:
http://www.chesspub.com/cgi-bin/yabb2/YaBB.pl?num=1098049385/0#0.
After looking at this line some more, I ultimately came to the conclusion that it didn't make practical sense to play the Dutch from the 1.Nf3 f5 move order, because the Lisitsin Gambit Deferred promised White good chances of an edge and was very easy to learn.
The Dutch of course is very playable against a 1.c4 move order, although there are still problems with trying to get to a Stonewall from there if White knows the tricks.
I actually quite liked the main line Stonewall positions for Black. The problem was getting to them with so many players using 1.Nf3 or English move orders to get to 1.d4 openings these days. And, like I noted above, move order issues after 1.Nf3 became somewhat problematic for me.
I have now moved away from the Dutch towards the QGA as a second defense to 1.d4. Although you can't force the QGA against 1.Nf3 either, the move order issues are much less problematic because after 1.Nf3 d5 2.c4 dxc4 White has a choice of transposing into mainline QGA systems with 3.e3 Nf6 4.Bxc4 e6 5.d4 c5 etc., or playing 3.Na3, 3.e4, or 3.Qa4+, all of which are, IMO, toothless systems against each which Black has a choice among equalizing lines.
Perhaps most importantly, after 1.Nf3 d5 2.d3 Nf6, the Tennison Gambit Deferred with 3.e4? is not nearly as good as the Lisitsin Gambit Deferred.