I have sort of the opposite problem: playing against stronger opposition, lose (usually interesting games) and the winner refrains from a post mortem.

So I end up doing the post mortems myself  

imo most people get tired after a long game, plus they gather lots of stress and emotions during the last phase of the game, so the normal tendency is to opt for a chess anti-climax. In my experience, it is usually people who are serious about improving that are always willing to do post mortems..

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So long as you're modest and friendly, I fail to understand why anyone would not respect you.  But if some people don't, then just say (to yourself) to Hell with them and go on winning.  I don't think you should stop going to the club so long as there are people there who have a decent chance of beating you.  I wouldn't that worry individuals X and Y didn't like me.  Life is way to short for that, and you weren't put on this planet to make life easy for some 1500-rated doofus.

I don't sympathize with your complaint that so-and-so is just playing supersolid chess as White and trying to time you out.  It's a game, you know?  And if you want to beat these people, you have to come up with moves that do it.  It's their right to play the London or whatever, it's your right to smash them. 

This game is about winning.  Focus on that, and to blazes with people that don't like it.  At the same time, I think that if you act modestly and respectfully, you'll find some chess friends to share the game with.

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Perhaps people judge on appearances and mistakenly perceive you as weak. 
Do you walk with a stoop, wear diamond pattern sweaters, have an array of nervous twitches, or perhaps comedic facial hair such as a fu manchu or a handlebar moustache? 
Get down the gym, buy some cool shades , ditch clothing yer granny bought you, remove the mullet and people will respect you for your true worth. Happy analysing...!

I personally have no problem when I lose against a stronger opponent,
and he clearly played better. Sometimes I have problems when I lose a winning position, or if I just throw away a position against a weaker opponent, but I think this is normal. I am in the range 1900/2000.
But at my local club or in tournaments there are players in the range of 1500-1700 that absolutely show no respect at all when I win against them. And it is not like they have a reason, they didn't have a winning position anywhere, they were worse throughout the whole game,
and still they can't understand that they lose to me. Some people after a game in a tourney don't want to analyse, etc. Maybe it is because I am younger than them, and they have problem losing against someone who is younger, but I don't know. I myself, I am happy if I have the chance to play against a stronger player, for example in the range 2200-2300, and I totally accept when I lose and he clearly was better.  But I really don't know what is wrong with these people with much lower rating and worse play not being able to understand their loss against me ... I don't even know if I should turn up at the chessclub anymore, because chesswise I can't learn anything  there, with white I win all my games, some stronger players in the range 1800-1900, when having white just play ubersolid and defensive chess trying to dry out the position, hoping to win on time against me... this is no chess that can survice in long time controls ... this is more or less garbage ...
it's really only for the social event I come ... or once someone who normally plays the KID tryed out the slav against me once, he played 4. ... Bf5 and I played Qb3, and he had to move it backwards to c8 ...
I said to him Bf5 is wrong, it is not theory, and he says "no, no, it is right, I like the position",  I really don't know what to say to this.  I just won't say anything anymore, it's simply not worth it.