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Re: Chess midlife Crisis?
Reply #2 - 04/09/10 at 14:10:03
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Actually, I am not anxious about anything. This is the most optimistic I have ever been about am ability to make strong improvement in chess. I was very committed to it. Then all of a sudden lost the commitment. I don't really think it is bad thing per se. I don't feel like I missed out on anything in my long breaks from chess since there are so many other things that are more important for me. I am just surprised at how a passion that had been so strong has just so in-explicitly been extinguished so suddenly.
  

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Re: Chess midlife Crisis?
Reply #1 - 04/09/10 at 13:36:56
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I think it is normal sometimes to get fixated about ratings, winning, improvement etc. and this may lead to two harmful side-effects:
a) Getting anxious and feeling the pressure to use all free time for chess training. You may also feel guilty if stop working or try to 'create' more free time by avoiding other social etc. activities, and
b) Reduced pleasure in playing the game since you may be afraid of making blunders, lose rating points etc.

imo there is nothing wrong in taking as many breaks from chess as you feel like - you may even improve after a 'healthy' break. Moreover, I don't think there is anything wrong in prolonging a training schedule (e.g. a few years have already passed since I decided to make some serious study of the White side of the Open Sicilian - tbh I have never really started!) if you decide there are other priorities in chess or life.

All in all, if it is not funny I simply don't see the point. From time to time, you certainly need a break from your career, family etc., but you are not obliged to always use chess for that.. Wink
  

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Chess midlife Crisis?
04/09/10 at 13:15:31
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Have this ever happened to you? All of a sudden the scales fall from your eyes, and you suddenly realize that chess is a frivolous, pointless antisocial pursuit that just seems to sap endless of your precious resources of time and money? All for no reason.

I have played chess on and off intermittently for the last 24 years, sometimes with very long breaks of up to 10 years. On all occasions the breaks have been due more to pull factors - other interests, work, study, travel. For the first time, I just suddenly find myself disillusioned with chess. and unmotivated. 

I don't play that regular competitive chess. I am preparing for my first OTB tournament in a year. And I just can't find the motivation to open a chess book. I might end up not playing. Outside of chess I have a full life, and nothing has really changed. 

I am just curious, has anyone ever similar to this and did it pass?
  

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