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Reply #47 - 04/24/10 at 13:18:42
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I sometimes get this feeling that chess is pointless too. Usually, I get over it in one of two ways:

- Chess for me is first of all a sport. And I can't think of any other sports that are not at least equally "pointless". Chess is at least as worthy a way of friendly competition as tennis, bowling, dart, and golf. So it really boils down to whether friendly competition, self-improvement and testing ones limits has any point at all. Which I believe it does.

- Alternatively, I take out a book by one of the great endgame study composers and admire the beauty and the triumph of "mind over matter" (i.e. position over material) that are inherent in so many of these positions.

- A further point in favor of chess (and mind games generally) is how much they have helped psychology find out about human thinking and memory. Though this does not strictly bear on why I, of all people, should play the game.

Then of course chess also has a social element in its favor, and on the other hand nobody should go on playing if they just don't like it. But both those observations are true of all human pursuits.
  

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Re: Chess midlife Crisis?
Reply #46 - 04/24/10 at 08:10:46
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TN wrote on 04/24/10 at 04:30:28:

j) Take up poker. 


Blasphemy! 

(Note which ones I didn't complain about! Shocked)
  
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Reply #45 - 04/24/10 at 04:30:28
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trw wrote on 04/24/10 at 00:08:03:
I sometimes wonder why I play chess. I spend alot of time at tournaments, traveling to tournaments correspondence and my opening preparation... but outside of this I can't seem to make myself study anymore to improve. I don't enjoy most of the games I play (I would estimate 1%)... and its been this way for at least a year. There was a point then when I was so excited that my mouth watered for the start of the next game be it otb or correspondence... and not only was it not difficult for me to study but I did it for hours a day without losing enthusiasm.

I wonder is it burnout? A parting of the ways with chess? Or some kind of midlife chess crisis for lack of a better word. The thing is I just want to break this attitude and get back to enjoying this game and studying again. I just don't know how.


Change some of the features of your life. Here are some suggestions that may help:

a) Ask for a promotion at work. The worst the boss can say is 'No'. 

b) Get a girlfriend if you don't have one at present.

c) Ditch the opening preparation and just play as much chess as you can. Play every decent opening, even if you don't know the theory. 

d) If you haven't already, get a gym membership and work out. If you have a membership, play a new sport.

e) Learn another language.

f) If you are drinking or smoking, go cold turkey. 

g) Change careers.

h) If possible, take long-service leave or similar. 

i) If chess doesn't make you happy, stop playing. Switch to something that does make you happy.

j) Take up poker. 

k) Stop reading ChessPub Forum? Shocked

Hope this helps.
  

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Re: Chess midlife Crisis?
Reply #44 - 04/24/10 at 00:08:03
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I sometimes wonder why I play chess. I spend alot of time at tournaments, traveling to tournaments correspondence and my opening preparation... but outside of this I can't seem to make myself study anymore to improve. I don't enjoy most of the games I play (I would estimate 1%)... and its been this way for at least a year. There was a point then when I was so excited that my mouth watered for the start of the next game be it otb or correspondence... and not only was it not difficult for me to study but I did it for hours a day without losing enthusiasm.

I wonder is it burnout? A parting of the ways with chess? Or some kind of midlife chess crisis for lack of a better word. The thing is I just want to break this attitude and get back to enjoying this game and studying again. I just don't know how.
  
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Re: Chess midlife Crisis?
Reply #43 - 04/15/10 at 12:53:45
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nimzo5 wrote on 04/15/10 at 00:35:23:
The origin (supposedly) of the word awe is terror or fright. I almost solely think of it in a Biblical context relating to Old Testament "God". In modern times, American English has devalued it into slang- and Atheists refer to the greater whole in a similar vein.


I don't think that when I say I have awe for the Cosmos, I am using the term in any slang or trivial sense.  Awe connotes a certain dread, that is true.  That's appropriate to the case, I suppose, considering that it is purely a matter of fate and chance whether an earthquate topples the towers of Seattle or a great asteroid slams into the Earth.  But it isn't quite the same as the fear in "Fear Thy God," which goes beyond awe and adopts a cringing and subservient posture.  That would be absurd, because the Cosmos appears to be incapable of intention with respect to human interest.   

To return to the topic, when I left the military and went to graduate school, and continuing for several years when I entered professional work, I put chess aside because I needed my time for pursuits more material to my welfare. 

I would like to think that if I had applied myself to chess much more rigorously, I would have become significantly better at it than I am.  But on the other hand, I very much appreciate all the good things that I have, and if a more serious pursuit of this game had implied any significant sacrifice of my current level of welfare, I would not have undertaken it.  It's possible that I haven't used my time that well, and that I could have become much better at chess without much material sacrifice.  But if that is true, it's too late for me to do anything about it.  In the mean time, I will pursue the game out of pure enjoyment.
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Reply #42 - 04/15/10 at 08:00:18
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I have seen many players stop playing but i think it was often for non chess reasons : studies, work, children, other passion like theatre or other game like poker etc. In my case i had many fascinating activities before chess : football, tennis table, tennis, cards and sometimes regret that i only learn the chess rules at 16, maybe too late to be really good but i still love the game at 45 years.
  
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Reply #41 - 04/15/10 at 06:28:05
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I'm not really sure what to do with this thread! 

Undecided

(Seriously, I'll deal with it within 24 hours.)
  
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Re: Chess midlife Crisis?
Reply #39 - 04/15/10 at 02:28:05
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Markovich wrote on 04/14/10 at 19:51:23:
There are many who do think that if there is no such Cosmic authority, then life loses its significance and all ethical questions become insignificant.  They must have their fictitious Ten Commandments or whatnot.  I disagree of course.


So do I. It's perfectly possible to develop a set of values only relying on human condition.

Markovich wrote on 04/14/10 at 19:51:23:
It would seem from your words that you do not, but that is something that I respectfully doubt.  I doubt that it is merely your pleasure that your children live and prosper, for example, but I believe instead that in fact, it is your fervent desire, and that it is a desire you would pursue even if doing so brought you some considerable pain.


Thank you for having more faith in me than I have myself. Btw I only have one child, a boy.  In fact there are people who have accused me of sacrificing the best interests of my son for my own interests. I disagree but that is mainly based on a different interpretation of what those best interests are. So this is a tricky business.

Markovich wrote on 04/14/10 at 19:51:23:
To me it seems pointless to deny that we do indeed care about ourselves and about each other.  If that does not invest life with significance, then fine, life has no significance.  But that seems to me to be a very torturous use of words.


The opposite seems a bit egocentric to me, making oneself more important than one actually is. Look, I do think in Suriname I have made some difference for some people. In The Netherlands I highly doubt it. But then again I wonder: if I had not been around, by staying in The Netherlands, would they have been that much worse off? And how significant (thank you, that was the word I was looking for) was that difference? Was it? I tend to think that that thought of making some difference is highly subjective, with which I am completely satisfied. If that is just a torturous use of words, so be it. Modesty can be a form of vanity and I am not claiming that I am free of it.

Btw I second TN's suggestion.
  

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Reply #38 - 04/15/10 at 00:51:44
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[quote author=3F3C3630510 link=1270818931/37#37 date=1271288733]@ Antillian
I suggest your amusement is misplaced. It was MNb who introduced the 'admire' term, seemingly as some sort of proxy for Markovich's original 'revere' or 'worship'. Markovich will speak for himself, but [i]in this context[/i] I sense a real distinction between the terms, the difference being that 'admire' may be the thought morally tinged. Isn't that the point?[/quote]

I was not laughing at Markovich or making fun of him in anyway. Yes, I do appreciate the nuanced difference. But still, the depth of the conviction of the statement on the absurdity of admiring the great WDT, while of course being in awe of it struck my funny bone. Perhaps others don't share my sense of amusement on this . Ah well, nevermind.  :-X
  

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Reply #37 - 04/15/10 at 00:35:23
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The origin (supposedly) of the word awe is terror or fright. I almost solely think of it in a Biblical context relating to Old Testament "God". In modern times, American English has devalued it into slang- and Atheists refer to the greater whole in a similar vein.
  

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Reply #36 - 04/14/10 at 23:45:33
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@ Antillian
I suggest your amusement is misplaced. It was MNb who introduced the 'admire' term, seemingly as some sort of proxy for Markovich's original 'revere' or 'worship'. Markovich will speak for himself, but [i]in this context[/i] I sense a real distinction between the terms, the difference being that 'admire' may be thought morally tinged. Isn't that the point?
  
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Reply #35 - 04/14/10 at 19:59:16
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Markovich wrote on 04/14/10 at 19:25:31:
Antillian wrote on 04/14/10 at 15:58:56:
Markovich wrote on 04/14/10 at 15:35:03:

I do not admire the WDT, which would be absurd.  I merely stand in awe of it, and am happy for the chance to have beheld it.


LMAO! Grin


Well fine, but seriously, I'd be interested to know why, or what your attitude is.  You're religious?


I am of Christian persuasion myself. But I just found it hilariously funny how you sought to distinguish between "admire" and "stand in awe". That's all. 
  

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Reply #34 - 04/14/10 at 19:51:23
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MNb wrote on 04/14/10 at 16:07:48:
nimzo5 wrote on 04/14/10 at 16:05:01:
Admiration has a pejorative element.


Weird - for a Dutchman. In Dutch it certainly has not. I guess I have learned something again.
For those interested in etymology: the Dutch word for admiration is "bewondering", derived from "wonder". That has two elements: miracle and wonder. Nothing pejorative here and that is how I used the word.
Sorry again for implying something I did not intend to imply.


I dunno that admiration involves a pejorative element.  I don't think it does, actually.  But admiration implies that the thing admired ranks highly in relation to other things of its kind.  Since there is no other thing of the WDT kind, admiration is not really appropriate.  Equally, nobody would say (in English anyway), that he admired God. 

As to the actual argument, I don't require the authority of the Cosmos to take the point of view that certain actions are good and certain ones are evil, or that life lived in certain ways is worthwhile, and in others less so.  There are many who do think that if there is no such Cosmic authority, then life loses its significance and all ethical questions become insignificant.  They must have their fictitious Ten Commandments or whatnot.  I disagree of course.  It would seem from your words that you do not, but that is something that I respectfully doubt.  I doubt that it is merely your pleasure that your children live and prosper, for example, but I believe instead that in fact, it is your fervent desire, and that it is a desire you would pursue even if doing so brought you some considerable pain.

Is value subjective?  Well, it doesn't originate entirely with me, but it is wholly internal to the human project.  That project, not the collision of two galaxies or some star being sucked into a black hole, or a host of other things of greater terribleness and grandeur, is my little part of the Whole Damn Thing.  Yes, it's my part because I make it so, and so do you, in actual fact.  The WDT doesn't notice us or care about us, and probably it is not the sort of thing that is capable of noticing or caring, but so what?  

We are what we are.  To me it seems pointless to deny that we do indeed care about ourselves and about each other.  If that does not invest life with significance, then fine, life has no significance.  But that seems to me to be a very torturous use of words.
  

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Re: Chess midlife Crisis?
Reply #33 - 04/14/10 at 19:25:31
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Antillian wrote on 04/14/10 at 15:58:56:
Markovich wrote on 04/14/10 at 15:35:03:

I do not admire the WDT, which would be absurd.  I merely stand in awe of it, and am happy for the chance to have beheld it.


LMAO! Grin


Well fine, but seriously, I'd be interested to know why, or what your attitude is.  You're religious?
  

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