IMJohnCox wrote on 11/21/11 at 23:25:47:
>But IMJohnCox, while I understand your irritation, I don't think that a legal draw offer can possibly be condemned.
I'm surprised to hear you say that. A draw offer in a lost position is (I thought universally) regarded as poor form and personally I think offering a draw to a player who has very little time is also unacceptable - after all, the main object of it is precisely to distract him from concentrating on his proper move and perhaps even persuade him to lose on time. If you do want to offer a draw in these circumstances, it's incumbent on you to be very careful about finishing your offer before pressing the clock.
An act doesn't have to be unlawful to be condemned; the entire point of etiquette is that complying with the rules is the start and not the end of it.
Anyway, as others have pointed out, this particular offer was in fact not made according to the rules.
My opponent was not a child either - obviously children sometimes do do this sort of thing and are to be educated rather than condemned.
I agree. What I meant was, I think you're entitled to think badly of someone who does this sort of thing, but not to complain about it. I think that complaining about some player's legal actions is itself bad form. You should just grit your teeth, I think. Vent to your chess buddies, but don't complain about it in public. I don't say that's what you did.
I once offered a draw in a last-round, Sunday afternoon game, notwithstanding that I was a safe pawn up and had a good chance to win. My opponent had driving to Columbus from Cleveland, about two hours away, with three other players. My game was the only one still being played, and all those people wanted to get back to Cleveland. My winning would have consumed at least another hour.
Playing on was my absolute right, however, and I would not have appreciated anyone's complaining about it if that had been my choice.