TalJechin wrote on 02/26/14 at 17:33:19:
Well, I still don't see what's gentlemanly or being a good sport with playing on until a rather basic mate. If the mate was exceptional in some way, then okay - one could give the opponent the chance to execute it. But if they start "thinking" it's probably more a signal of them saying "I think it's time for you to resign".
I remember a picture from an old Swedish chess magazine, with a picture of a GM sitting leaned back with arms crossed, with his clock ticking. The text underneath said: "GM X gave his opponent 15 minutes to come to grips with resigning, but to no avail".
Well I see your point; perhaps he thought I was being rude for not resigning? Still seems odd, though. After verifying that I was lost I played each of my moves almost immediately (just a few seconds to write the move down and execute them politely, no slamming pieces or the clock), and I had to wait about 3 minutes or so for 31.Qxd8, as well as for each of move 28, 29, and 30. And I agree that it wasn't an exceptional mate--if I walked into it today I would just resign--but that was twelve years ago and we certainly weren't Grandmasters (you can see our rating).
Maybe it's a cultural thing. I suspect that most American and British players would think that I was being polite by waiting at the board to allow my opponent to mate me, and that my opponent was being rude in waiting 3 minutes to play 31.Qxd8 mate. He obviously saw it; it's not some weird study with pieces in random places.
Not that I think I was terribly slighted or anything, this thread just reminded me of the incident. I admit I'm surprised with the idea that
I may have behaved rudely--I know Nigel Short has allowed his opponents to mate him instead of resigning at various times, and other strong players have as well. I wasn't wasting any of his time as I was responding to the moves in only a few seconds.
No big deal, anyway, sorry for the thread derail.